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  • One year when my daughter Abigail was just a little person, we took her (and Owen and Audrey) (sorry, Sadie and Eli and evelyn, you weren’t born yet) to vote in a primary election IN THE RAIN.
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When we left our polling place, with wet hair and “I VOTED” stickers plastered to our jackets, Abigail—who had been righteously annoyed at not being allowed to vote—told us: I VOTED IN MY HEART. 😍 Because that is what you can do when you are seven.
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One more reminder if you’re in the U.S.: vote with your heart, and also VOTE WITH YOUR VOTE. Heart + action today, friends. Because that is what you can do now.
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P.S. this year Abigail voted FOR REAL with a BALLOT. I can’t even.
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P.P.S. that is totally a photo of Ev because I do not have photos of tiny Abigail on my phone. 😂
  • VOTED! So. This election, I planned to vote by mail. I didn’t think I could make it to the polls in person, so I requested a mail-in ballot—and it never arrived.
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But you know what, that is okay. We made a new plan, we made it work. I voted in person, with all my kiddos. (Except for Abigail, who is away at college. She voted this morning!)
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If your day didn’t go as planned, if getting to the polls is turning out to be harder than you expected: I GET YOU. 😂 I feel ya. And I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS. You can do hard things. Make it happen, loves. Get out there and vote! xo.
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And if you’ve already voted: WELL DONE. High five for you! 🙌🏼😉
  • Voting for decency today. Voting for civility, for inclusion, for the common good. I’m refusing to listen to fear-mongering, refusing to give up on a vision of the more perfect union that we have never yet been, but can still become. That’s the plan today, friends. Today, we vote.
  • Yes I DO fully intend to keep the pumpkins around until we put up the Christmas tree. One day pumpkins, the next day pine needles: that is my actual plan. I see zero flaws with this.
  • Three brave things you can do today:
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1. Ask a question you do not know the answer to, and really listen to what you hear.
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(Don’t be afraid to ask. Yes, you might look like you don’t know stuff. But I’d rather admit I don’t know and LEARN than keep not knowing forever.)
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2. Tell someone how you really feel. This means you have to NOTICE how you really feel. You can do this. And you can say it out loud, whether you feel confused or scared or happy or embarrassed or excited or anything.
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3. Put down your phone the next time you have the urge to pick it up. Stay present instead, right where you are. Refuse to be distracted from your boredom or your tiredness or your unease or your self. See it all. See the truth of it.
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Three tiny brave things. Listening, noticing, connecting. Start where you are, do what you can. xo.
  • This is your life story you’re living here. This is it.
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And if you have to hide who you are, if you have to pretend everything is okay, if you have to wear a mask to fit into this one—that is not your story.
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Turn the page, start another chapter, write a whole new book. Change the terms. Live the story that is all YOURS, because we need all the stories in this world. Including yours. xo.