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  • My friend @heathercaliri and I went out for tea the other day, and she asked me about kids growing up and going to college and being perfectly healthy and happy and also NOT LITTLE. .
She summed it up like this: So it’s all good—nothing is WRONG—but it’s hard.
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To which I say, yes. Hashtag: life. You aren’t doing it wrong, this is just how it goes. Change and growth and shedding of old skins and becoming a beginner at something new, over and over and over again. .
It’s all good and even when nothing is wrong it’s still hard. That is my summary thank you and good night.
  • I have three hard things still to do today, but I remembered to switch from slippers to shoes when I left the house this morning, so: WINNING. #itsthelittlethings
  • You might be in the middle of the mess. You are not the mess.
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You might be watching things fall apart. You are not a failure. (Letting things fall apart when they need to is brave.)
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You might be thinking you have no idea how you got here, or where you’re going next. But you are not lost. (The not-knowing opens you up to things you didn’t even know to look for, it you let it.)
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This is where you are. Don’t be afraid to look around and see it for what it is. But where you are is not who you are. You are more than this one moment, and even now the next moment is rising up to meet you. xo.
  • Things I am for-real excited about right now:
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1. A rainy week
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2. Jigsaw puzzle in progress .
3. Fleece-lined tights to wear under my jeans (yes in Southern California) (I know it’s not Actual Cold) (did I mention the rain?) (okay FINE but they’re still making me happy) 😂
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What’s working for you this week, loves?
  • Oh, and: one more thing! Our 2019 Reader Survey is LIVE! (That’s you. It’s a YOU survey.)
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Every year, I ask you all a few questions to help me get to know you better. And every year, your answers make me laugh (because: you’re funny) and sigh (because: life) and feel so lucky to get to hang out with you on the internet (because: obviously).
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I’d love to hear what you have to say. It’ll only take a minute, and your answers are all anonymous. Are you in? (Thank you!)
  • There is a post-it note on my desk that says: YOU CAN DO THIS. .
I wrote it to myself, ages ago. I remember writing it at night before bed, so it would be the first thing I saw when I sat down the next morning, but I can’t actually remember WHAT IT WAS I meant to do. I’m assuming I did it.
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And now a purple post-it sits there, reminding me: HI TODAY MIGHT BE HARD BUT THAT’S COOL, YOU CAN DO THIS. It’s a forever reminder, or at least forever-until-the-sticky-note-runs-out-of-stick.
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Is it cheesy to write sort-of-obvious affirmations to yourself? It may very well be!
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Do I care? In fact, I do not!
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If you need it today too, loves, here’s your sticky note: YOU CAN DO THIS. I don’t know what your THIS is, but that doesn’t make it any less true.
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I’m guessing the reason we need to be reminded is because the “THIS” is scary, or hard, or overwhelming. That makes sense. But you are stronger than that, you will rise, and you can do this. .
(From my desk to yours. You’re welcome. xo.)