Good news: It’s okay to feel your feelings. (I know, you knew that.)
It sounds so good when the feelings are “joy” and “excitement” and “anticipation.” Yes, we think, Let’s be present! Be in the moment. Feel those feelings!
But it applies even to the harder stuff. You have all those feelings for a good reason.
If I had a list of feelings I’d rather skip, regret would be on there. (Despair, loneliness, rage: these could all make the list, too. I’d more or less like to have all the warm-fuzzy feelings and none of the ones that make you cry.)
I’m not alone in this.
Regret is like a spider with hairy legs, or grape-flavored soda. You wish it would go away, sure, but more than that—you wish it just didn’t exist.