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  • The call of the warrior: I have my tea. I can do hard things.⁣
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Even when the hard thing is Finish Proofreading My Manuscript. ⁣
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Even when one million other things seem suddenly and deeply compelling, things like folding all the laundry in the house, and flossing my teeth in the middle of the day, and writing an instagram caption, and leaving a whole bunch of in-depth comments with carefully chosen and highly relevant emojis 💃👏🏼💯 ⁣
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I’m engaging with the world (or at least the people of Instagram) and also practicing excellent dental hygiene! These are all Super Important Things that could not possibly wait until next Tuesday, let’s be real.⁣
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All right, all right! I remember. I have my tea. I can do hard things. Maybe I should brew a second cup just in case? xo.
  • This has been one of those weeks that require a bazillion decisions and making plans and figuring things out. ⁣
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Last night I finally realized: Oh hi, I still have eighteen thousand things to decide and I am out of opinions! There are no answers here, just options. They’re all equally reasonable options. There is no right answer, no winner, no Most Important Thing.⁣
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And Dane said to me: Well... if there’s no right answer, I think that means you can do what you like.⁣
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YOU GUYS. Of course. This is your life. Do what you like! What a concept! I gave up on even trying to make a pros and cons list and just PICKED. ⁣
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You can do that because ‘what you like’ is just as valid of criteria as ‘what anyone else wants from you.’ Go forth and do what you like. Amen. xo.
  • Last year at Pride, Evelyn was little-but-not-THAT-little. Too little to want to march the whole route, too big for me to carry. Our friend Greg picked her up and carried her on his shoulders. ⁣
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The year before, Eli came down with an ear infection halfway through the parade and ALSO had to be carried all the way back to the car. ⁣
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Basically, we’re all just walking each other home and/or to Pride. ⁣
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These are the lessons I hope my kids are absorbing: that we all—every one of us, not just our family—we all belong to each other, that we will hold each other no matter what, that we will celebrate each other for who we are, and that we are lucky, so lucky, to be on this earth together, to get to live and learn and love together. #pride ⁣
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(Also that by July, I cannot be bothered to keep up with bangs. Every kid has their hair in their eyes. Thank you for noticing, we’ll fix it in September.)
  • Eeeeeeep! Friends, I am so excited to introduce you to… the cover of my new book, Permission Granted: Be Who You Were Made to Be and Let Go of the Rest!⁣
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You guys, it’s a Real Thing. IT HAS A COVER. And a TITLE. And… it’s officially available for preorder at Amazon and Barnes & Noble and TARGET and all the places you buy books and I am not even kidding you right now. (!!!)⁣
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What IS this new book, you wonder? What’s it about? ⁣
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I can answer that one!⁣
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From the publisher’s description:⁣
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“Melissa Camara Wilkins invites you into her journey of discovering the profound simplicity of dropping the pretenses and allowing ourselves to be fully human - flaws and all. This is a story about making life simpler by letting go of who you think you're supposed to be and becoming who you really are.”⁣
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I cannot wait to get it into your hands so we can talk about all the things. That will be happening on November 5, if all goes according to plan.⁣
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And in the meantime: did you SEE that beautiful cover?! You can even preorder one of your very own, to be delivered on release day! SO EXCITING!!! *tosses confetti*
  • If you have the option to spend the day in cat ears, maybe just do. That’s all I’m saying.
  • A few weeks ago I accidentally quit all my good habits. Vitamins and yoga and meditation in the morning and lemon water in the afternoon: poof. Forgotten.⁣
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This was totally logical, based on, you know, LIFE—sometimes life is so MUCH that you forget everything else—but still: not ideal. ⁣
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Last week I thought I would just Fix It All, restart everything all at once, and get my whole life back on track in all the areas. ⁣
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This worked for exactly one day and then crashed and burned, because you cannot add eighteen things back into your day (even eighteen really good things!) without crashing and burning. That is the way of things.⁣
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So this week I am trying something else. This week I am trying BABY STEPS. I’m adding one good habit back in at a time, and I am not worrying too much if things are not quite perfect. ⁣
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I am thinking about DIRECTION instead of LOCATION. ⁣
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Because I am not where I want to be, but I am one baby step closer than I was yesterday and two steps closer than the day before that, and I think that is actually the only way to get where I want to go.⁣
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Baby steps. Or really just baby STEP. And another one tomorrow. xo.