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  • Eeeeeeep! Friends, I am so excited to introduce you to… the cover of my new book, Permission Granted: Be Who You Were Made to Be and Let Go of the Rest!⁣
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You guys, it’s a Real Thing. IT HAS A COVER. And a TITLE. And… it’s officially available for preorder at Amazon and Barnes & Noble and TARGET and all the places you buy books and I am not even kidding you right now. (!!!)⁣
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What IS this new book, you wonder? What’s it about? ⁣
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I can answer that one!⁣
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From the publisher’s description:⁣
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“Melissa Camara Wilkins invites you into her journey of discovering the profound simplicity of dropping the pretenses and allowing ourselves to be fully human - flaws and all. This is a story about making life simpler by letting go of who you think you're supposed to be and becoming who you really are.”⁣
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I cannot wait to get it into your hands so we can talk about all the things. That will be happening on November 5, if all goes according to plan.⁣
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And in the meantime: did you SEE that beautiful cover?! You can even preorder one of your very own, to be delivered on release day! SO EXCITING!!! *tosses confetti*
  • If you have the option to spend the day in cat ears, maybe just do. That’s all I’m saying.
  • A few weeks ago I accidentally quit all my good habits. Vitamins and yoga and meditation in the morning and lemon water in the afternoon: poof. Forgotten.⁣
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This was totally logical, based on, you know, LIFE—sometimes life is so MUCH that you forget everything else—but still: not ideal. ⁣
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Last week I thought I would just Fix It All, restart everything all at once, and get my whole life back on track in all the areas. ⁣
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This worked for exactly one day and then crashed and burned, because you cannot add eighteen things back into your day (even eighteen really good things!) without crashing and burning. That is the way of things.⁣
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So this week I am trying something else. This week I am trying BABY STEPS. I’m adding one good habit back in at a time, and I am not worrying too much if things are not quite perfect. ⁣
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I am thinking about DIRECTION instead of LOCATION. ⁣
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Because I am not where I want to be, but I am one baby step closer than I was yesterday and two steps closer than the day before that, and I think that is actually the only way to get where I want to go.⁣
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Baby steps. Or really just baby STEP. And another one tomorrow. xo.
  • 👆🏼 This is my prayer every morning, and again before I sit down to work. Help me get out of my own way.⁣
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Help me remember that my worth and value and loved-ness are not up for discussion, so I don’t need to try to “protect” them.⁣
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Help me not to build a shield between myself and the world around me. Help me to do what I’m here to do today, not to worry about how I’ll be perceived.⁣
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Let me be willing to be misunderstood (because I can’t control what other people will think anyway).⁣
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Just... let me get out of my own way for a second here. Imperfectly. Messily. Long enough to see things from a wider perspective, to get a little glimpse of truth, to show up for my life as I am and not as I think I’m supposed to be. Every day and again when I start to forget: help me to get out of my own way.⁣ ⁣⁣
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#10thingstotellyou #whatsyourmantra
  • Here’s what I want you to know about this book: Old rules will not make a new world. And if you’ve been looking around this old world thinking, there must be a better way, there MUST—you were right. This is it. This is the new rule book. ⁣
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Because right now, what I want is for us to build new ways together. And the old rules will not get us there.⁣
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The old path is not there to keep you safe. The path is there to keep you small. Or like Abby says: You were never little red riding hood. You were always the wolf.⁣
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Every good new thing comes when you step off the old path and out into the unknown. Every good thing comes from saying: thank you, but we can imagine a better way. We can do better. We can be what the old rules never predicted.⁣
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New rules, loves. NEW RULES.⁣
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(And if you are wondering if this is a book for men too, I give you this, from the very first pages: ⁣
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“My dream is that people of every gender—as well as people between or beyond gender—will find themselves in these pages. My hope is that this book becomes a leap forward for HUMANKIND.” ⁣
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This one’s FOR EVERYONE.)⁣
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#WOLFPACK @abbywambach @celadonbooks
  • The other day, I spent the morning bouncing from task to task wondering: why is it so GLOOMY today? Why is everything so CHILLY and GRAY and A LITTLE BIT MISERABLE? It’s spring! It’s sunny outside! Isn’t it??⁣ ⁣
It took me until noon to realize that everything was gray because I’D NEVER OPENED ANYTHING UP ALL DAY. The blinds were all closed and the curtains were shut and no light or warmth or fresh air could get in, anywhere. ⁣ ⁣
YOU GUYS. If everything is dreary and gloomy and just sort of meh: TRY OPENING SOMETHING. Your heart, your mind, your eyes, your hands, a window. I don’t think it really matters WHAT.⁣ ⁣
I don’t even think it matters HOW. Whether it’s an intentional loosening or a crack down the middle: either way, the light is going to get back in. (But I mean, if you have the option, open something up on purpose. There’s less to clean up afterward that way.) xo.⁣ ⁣
(This is pretty much as close as I get to household tips. You’re welcome. 🤷‍♀️)