Dear Melissa, I know you don’t “do it all” but… HOW DO YOU DO IT ALL? How do you manage being a wife and a mom and homeschooling six kids (six?? I have TWO and I have no time!) and doing everything else, like having friends, or getting work … [Read more...] about How Do You Do It All? Four Tricks That Help
Some days I look at the world—or I look at MYSELF—and I think: What the heck? We have been here before. We’ve ALREADY BEEN HERE. Why are we doing this again? Why are we going BACKWARD? Because I want to think we’ll always move in one direction: … [Read more...] about When it Feels Like You’re Going Backward
Dear Melissa, I hear all this talk about doing the things that make me come alive, but… isn’t that selfish? I mean, those things are just for ME. They don’t help anyone else. Shouldn’t I be spending that time feeding the hungry? Or maybe just … [Read more...] about How Do I Know If It’s Selfish?
Over the summer, a friend invited me to come along to a writing workshop. This sounds like a good plan, right? They were a group of writers, and I write things. Matchy-matchy. … [Read more...] about This is What it Means to Belong
You know what’s weird? Life asks us to be brave every single day, even though approximately zero percent of us ever FEEL brave. But you still do the brave things. You have the hard conversations. You teach your kids things you kind of … [Read more...] about When You’re Looking For Everyday Bravery
When I hear people talk about rest, the first thing I think of is not, like, a vacation or a quiet cup of tea. The first thing I think of is sleep. Probably the first sixteen things I think of are sleep. How wrong would it REALLY be to sleep at … [Read more...] about Where Do You Find Rest?
When my daughter Evelyn was smaller, she would go to bed every night for months smelling like summer: like outdoors and sunshine, with a hint of dried peach juice. She was only two, so it wasn’t weird if I buried my nose in her hair as she fell … [Read more...] about If You Want More Wilderness, Just With Less Dirt
You are enough. I believe that: that you are enough, just as you are, just as you were made to be. But I want to be clear about what that means, and what it does not mean. Because “you are enough” does not mean that you have been … [Read more...] about What It Means to Be Enough
Dear sweet child of mine, You know how sometimes we will have a conversation, and I will talk and talk and talk about something? And you'll be thinking, Mom? We already know all of this. You've said all this before. Yup. This is going to be … [Read more...] about What I Want My Kids to Know About Body Image
The word cherries keeps rolling around in my head. Cherries, cherries, cherries. Cherries! They’re such a decadent fruit, not really practical at all. You can hardly enjoy them without staining your fingers, they have those ridiculous pits, and … [Read more...] about 5 Things Worth Loving This Summer
I know better than to compare my one little life to the clearly much easier lives my friends (and various friendly looking strangers) are living. I mean, I know better than to believe they’re all sipping lemonade by a pool and feeling fulfilled … [Read more...] about When You Know Better (But…)
Let’s start with this: Kindness matters. If we weren’t sure about that, we could check the greeting card aisle at Target, or we could read those posters at any elementary school, the ones with oversized letters that say, “Be Kind.” That’s great … [Read more...] about Kindness Matters. For Real.