The fastest way to get un-stuck

At our house, we have a rule about the word “yet,” and the rule is: we use it.

This is not a complicated rule.

The Yet Rule

I guess we could call it The Yet Rule, or maybe we should go with The Yeti Rule, because Yetis are more interesting than Yets. The name is not really the point, though.

It works like this. Sometimes we hear ourselves saying things like:

I can’t do this.

I am no good at this.

I don’t know how anyone ever does this.

I can’t figure this out.

We are telling ourselves stories about being stuck, but being stuck is not actually a story. Being stuck is a story problem.

Can you imagine what a boring story just “being stuck” would be? Once upon a time I got stuck. The end.

No, being stuck means the story isn’t finished. That’s just the beginning. You need to add a “yet.”Continue Reading

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